Who Are You If You Become Someone Who Is Committed?

Being committed means being visible. When you choose to be invisible, you also choose not to be committed.
Start this experiment and become invisible.
To become invisible, you must avoid everything that makes you visible.
To find out what you do to be visible, do the following.
Ask 10 people: "Please give me clues about what I do to be visible."
Write down the clues.
If you asked 10 people, you probably got some multiple clues.
Write the three clues that were mentioned most often one below the other in your Beep! Book.
Then begin the next steps to invisibility.
Day 1 - 3:
Avoid the most frequently mentioned item for the first three days.
Day 4 - 6:
Avoid the two most frequently mentioned items on those three days.
Day 5 - 7:
Avoid the three most frequently mentioned items on those three days.
Notice how your level of invisibility increases and you are seen less and less.

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Being committed means being visible. When you choose to be invisible, you also choose not to be committed.
Go further with this experiment and become visible.
To become visible, you must avoid everything that makes you invisible.
To find out what you do to be invisible, do the following.
Ask 10 people: "Please give me clues about what I do to be invisible."
Write down the clues.
If you asked 10 people, you probably got some multiple clues.
Write the three clues that were mentioned most often one below the other in your Beep! Book.
Then begin the next steps to visibility.
Day 1 - 3:
Avoid the most frequently mentioned item for the first three days.
Day 4 - 6:
Avoid the two most frequently mentioned items on those three days.
Day 5 - 7:
Avoid the three most frequently mentioned items on those three days.
Notice how your visibility level increases and you are seen more and more.

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One of the tricks to be invisible, I know and I'll tell you now.
The trick is to enter a space with a loud bang, stir up a lot of dust, attract everyone's attention, reap dislike, incomprehension or admiration and THEN secretly and quietly disappear into the dark corner of the space, close to the exit door and stay there until the end.

No one will approach you anymore, because you have already received and taken so much attention.
The others are now more in focus and usually no one wants anything from you.

If this strategy to be invisible is your strategy, please do the following experiment:
In online calls, speak every 10 minutes. Share what is alive in you right now, ask a question, make an offer, give feedback. If you can't think of anything, start a sentence with the words, "I feel joy / sadness / fear / anger because..."
In a ninety minute call, that's at least 8 ways to be visible.
The experiment ends when you have done it at at least 5 meetings of at least 5 people.

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It could be that your own perception of your visibility in the space doesn't match how others perceive you.
In your next 10 calls or meetings with people, do the following reality-check at least once:
"On a scale of 1 - 10, I perceive myself in terms of my visibility in the space at X right now. Please give me feedback on my perception."
Write the results (how you perceived yourself compared to others) in your Beep! Book.

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With this experiment, direct your attention and introspection to the things you do.
Every evening, write 50 things in your Beep! Book that you did today.

One below the other in a list, you can use bullet points, the point is not to describe things.
When you have written down 50 things, go through your list again and after each item make the letter N = NEW or the letter O = OLD.
OLD denotes things you've done before or things you do regularly.

NEW denotes things you did for the first time today.

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This part of the experiment lasts 10 days.

Continue writing your list as you did in part 1 of this experiment. Every night 50 things.
Every day for those 10 days, 3 things must appear on your list that you have never done before because you just did them today for the first time.
Don't put the focus on the action being new. The action is secondary.

What's new is the choice you made.

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Your fear probably has good reasons and evidence why it is appropriate and necessary to keep going back to the old hiding places.

Until you look at and hear those reasons and evidence, you can't choose not to hide.
Wear your Beep! Book with you day and night for a whole week and write in it as soon as fear appears.
Write down every situation, no matter how small, in which you feel fear.
Also write down how long the anxiety lasts. A few minutes, an hour, for days?
If the fear is there for more than 3 minutes, it is an emotional fear and an invitation for an Emotional Healing Process.
Engage in these.

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When you decide to stop trying to look good, you show yourself vulnerable.

Your being can become visible and someone may want to connect with that part of you. Without visibility, vulnerability and closeness, there is no commitment.
Call 10 people and ask them the question:
"Please give me clues on how I try to look good around others / around you (in calls)."
Write the clues in your Beep! Book.
What do you feel when you hear the clues?
You may notice how amazingly much people notice about you and how much is actually visible and noticeable.
In the next step you can experiment with letting these things go. Don't do them.
Variation: Ask someone to give you a BEEP every time he notices one of the behaviors in you.
Say to him: "Please give me a BEEP on the next 10 occasions (or in the next 10 calls) in which we meet, when you notice that I am trying to look good.

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Babies learn to use their hand by throwing an object on the floor over and over again. With each throw, they experiment with a small variation. The annoyed mother who keeps picking up the object may not see this.

At that moment, millions of new connections are formed in the brilliant baby brain. Babies are learning monsters.
If you don't know what commitment looks like on the new map, go ahead with not knowing.
Go ahead and talk about committing to committing. Become a commitment researcher.
Do something that you think has something to do with commitment and pay attention to what you create in the space.
When you become visible, vulnerable, when closeness is created, maybe something is working.
Committing to commitment is different than trying to do it.
The difference for me is that if I had tried to build a sword, I wouldn't have ended up building a sword, because it's impossible for a 54-year-old nurse from Germany to build a sword.
I had committed to building a sword and that commitment resulted in the sword being in that plum wood plank before I worked it out.

The sword was created by my commitment. I just had to get it out of the wood. Really!

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Build yourself a sword. But only if you don't know how to do it. If you know how to make a sword, don't make a sword. Then learn the art of making fire.

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This means developing Possibility Listening.

Listen for what your partner is committed to and then commit to that. Most of us do not really know what our partner, our children, or our boss are committed to. It may be to finish knitting a sweater by Christmas, or to do 500 pushups, or to open a successful restaurant, or to spend some weekend hours totally relaxing.

We all have both conscious and unconscious commitments. Many of the unconscious commitments that we are most fiercely committed to fulfilling are irresponsible.

This experiment is not like Bonnie’s commitment to Clyde’s irresponsible habit of bank robbing. This experiment is about listening for and committing to your partner’s responsible commitments.

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